Today I learned...

that you can focus on the bad or the good. You can focus on why you cried for two hours, or who made you smile for three minutes. You can focus on all the negative things, but when you realize that you like the positive things more, you start to only care about those things. I am starting to understand that perfection is boring - being myself is the truly interesting part. If that's not what someone wants, so be it. I can't please everyone. We all chose different paths, and the ones that matter to us are the ones that we should not be so afraid to take. We are all at different walks in our lives, and one person cannot hold another's chosen path against them for any reason. At some point, if our paths intertwine, they may not stay tangled together forever. And that is the wonder of choice. I can tell you about how I learned to grow a backbone and stand up for myself today, but I did not. Someone I was very close to in the past tried to hurt me, and at first it worked. But then I realized that everything they said to me had nothing to do with me - it was only what they wanted from me; something that was in the past and that I could not give them. When things are broken, they can be repaired, but it does not happen by pointing fingers - it happens by holding things together and letting everyone feel safe and human and alive.